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| Visual evidence of why love triangles are fascinating. |
Um, sadly, the answer is no.
Sigh!
Well, there wasn't a love triangle involving me and two amazing guys I was head-over-heels in love with. But that didn't mean there wasn't a love triangle of sorts. My love triangle involved a cool guy who I decided wasn't right for really dumb reasons, and the imaginary perfect guy I kept making lists about. (Spoiler alert: I did not end up with an imaginary guy.)
When I was in my last year of college I broke up with my long-term boyfriend. We'd been together since I was in high school, and, once we broke it off, I decided I did not want to settle back into another long-term relationship...I wanted to go on tons of dates with lots of amazing guys who were completely mature, college motivated, world traveled and otherwise unlike my high school boyfriend. After five years of going back to my hometown every weekend to eat at the same diners, go see movies at the same theaters, and hang out with the same group of people, I was ready for a huge change. I wanted to go out with different people, experience different things...I wanted a complete 180.
My parents owned a diner where I had to work most weekends, but I was determined to do my waitressing bit, then get back to college and all the crazy-fun experiences waiting for me there.
The problem with having parents who own a restaurant is that you never, ever get out early. You're always the one who has to cover when other people call out sick, don't show up, or can't handle the dinner rush. You're always stuck.
It was spring and we were in the thick of prom season. There were so many fun things going on back at college, but I was stuck filling in for all the high school waitresses who were off in their big, glittery dresses eating rubbery chicken and dancing to "Cotton-Eyed Joe" with boys in too-big rented tuxes. I was definitely not in a good mood, and to top my irritation off, the guy who made the burgers at my parents' place cooked every single burger medium-well, despite my detailed notes about how each customer wanted his/her burger cooked on every ticket.
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| Hell hath no fury like a waitress with yet ANOTHER overcooked hamburger complaint. |
After the jillionth customer complaint, two milkshakes spilled down my ridiculous poodle skirt, six straight hours on a packed floor with clueless new waitresses, and "The Lion Sleeps Tonight" on repeat thanks to a bunch of fourth graders with a huge handful of quarters lined up at the jukebox, I was in rare form, and all of my anger was going to rain down on the hamburger guy's head.
"Why aren't you at college?" he asked in a perfectly calm voice, flipping a burger and pressing down on it with his spatula, exactly the way you're NOT supposed to. It makes them dry.
His question caught me off guard. So did his eyes. Very, very blue with lashes so curly, they were almost feminine. Gorgeous.
"I, uh, have to cover for prom." I reached out and took the spatula before the burger dried out completely. I noticed he had great, strong-looking hands. "Don't press on them like that. It makes them hard and dried out."
He smiled. He had a gap between his front teeth. Adorable. "I'm not really a great burger cook. My brother dragged me here when the last guy quit. So, what do you study? At college?"
"Women's studies." I handed him back the spatula, trying not to stare at his hands. "And art history."
"Cool. What do you do for fun when you're here?" He was about to press down on the burger again, but he looked over at me and tapped his spatula on the side of the grill instead.
My tables were waiting. Particularly the one that was begging for salmonella poisoning with their all-rare order. Usually I was on my A-game when I waitressed. But I made lame excuses in my head and bought another minute with him.
"Just the usual. Going to movies, eating out." Was he fishing for a date?
"Not here, right?" He grinned. "At least not while I'm cooking?"
"You're not that bad. I actually like my burgers medium well," I lied. He chuckled, and I felt the rush of something I couldn't put my finger on in the back of my mind. "There's a new sushi place that looks good." A sushi place in our one-horse town was pretty much the height of restaurant sophistication.
"I know it." He flipped another burger, his eyes on the patties he was cooking to death. "We should go sometime."
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| No crush I developed in my tiny little town would work! It would end in disaster! DISASTER! |
"You like sushi?" I tried not to act too surprised. Guys who burn hamburgers can like raw fish.
"Never had it. First time for everything, though, right?" And then that smile again!
I realized that I had all the tell-tale signs of a new crush; dry mouth, pattering heart, sweaty palms.
But NO! I could NOT be into the burger guy at my parents' diner! I needed to date lots of people! I needed to go into the city and have wild, amazing adventures! I needed to go back to college!
But it wasn't that easy to brush him off. The guys at college were fun and nice. We went to great restaurants and amazing clubs. We talked about classes, professors, politics, high-brow things that made me feel sophisticated. And kind of bored.
I found myself looking forward to my nights at the diner with Hamburger Guy. I wanted to talk about our mutual love for The Jim Henson Hour, Pearl Jam, and movie theater hot dogs. I admired his work ethic, intelligence, and his mouth. You know when you can just tell someone is going to be an amazing kisser? I knew with him from the first time he smiled at me.
I finally gave up on this idea that I had to find the perfect person at college, far away from my hometown. I decided to date Hamburger Guy for the summer. Then I'd go back to my original plan.
So there was a summer full of late night movies, driving around listening to mix CD's, bonfires, talking for hours, and lots of kissing. When fall came and school started again, I went on dates with other guys, but spent most of my time wanting to be with Hamburger Guy.
Finally, slowly, I came to the realization that my original plan was kind of ridiculous. And I stopped going on dates with other people just because I felt like it was what I should do. Hamburger Guy and I spent more time together.
We ate a lot of sushi. Well, I did. He ate anything that didn't have raw fish in it and stopped to get cheeseburgers from McDonald's after he dropped me off, he later confessed. We went to museums and CD stores (back when there were CD stores), Cape Cod and Friendly's. And it was always ridiculously fun.
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| Awww. The end! |
Eventually I forgot that I ever had some weird list of requirements for the person I loved. Why would I have wanted a guy with a college degree when I could have one who shared my love for John Hughes and his film-making genius? And what did it matter if a guy was world traveled when Hamburger Guy made a drive around the county fun? I stopped being so stubborn about what I wanted out of a relationship, and faced the fact that I'd pretty much lost the ability to happily date other people the night he smiled at me over a grill full of over-cooked hamburgers.
Oh, and I also eventually stopped thinking of him as Hamburger Guy, especially since his stint professionally cooking hamburgers ended many years ago. But it was mainly because I really wanted to say yes when he proposed, but didn't want to think of myself as 'Mrs. Hamburger Guy.' And, to this day, he really does still make a fairly crappy hamburger...but I love him anyway.
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49 comments:
Oh, what an absolutely lovely story! You've made me all smiley. Thank you!
Oh, sigh. I love it! I'm all smiley too! (Favourite part -- definitely that he snuck off to get McD's after dropping you off! That's devotion!)
Awww! Wonderful story! :)
Such a sweet story, thanks for sharing :)
Thank you Anne, Amie, Melanie, and Jennifer! It's a teeny bit embarrassing how much I resisted dating him. We've been together for 11 years now, and he's still the coolest guy ever ;)!
And thank you SO MUCH Medeia for hosting me! I wanted to put the first comment up with a thank you...but I'm a lazy Saturday sleeper!
oh LIz. I love this story :)
and yeah , we have way, way much in common... I waited tables at a diner, forevah,, seriously high school, all through college and grad school... ok so maybe my parents weren't the owners, but my bosses certainly were like family... and their kids my friends and all that...
and I met my husband at the diner too, except he wasn't cooking he was eating.
craziness
Oh isn't that a lovely story for a quiet Saturday? There's a book in there, all by itself :-)
even this old guy caught himself... grinning ;) lol
thx liz and medeia :)
Bless, such a great story! Makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside :)
Cristina - I love all of our common stories! And I also love that you understand my waitressing pain/love ;)! Restaurants are a weirdly good place to meet guys!
Sarah - Oh! Maybe it WOULD make a good book! I should try ;)!
Laughingwolf - No problem! I tried to keep it from being too sappy, just in case my husband ever gets internet literate and reads it!
Whispering Words - I'm so glad you liked it!
I love your love story ... crappy hamburgers and all :)
Waving to Medeia!
Now that is a love story and I'm sure your novel, Double Clutch, is just as engaging, Liz. Thanks for sharing with us and thanks to Medeia for having her here.
That's a wonderful story! :)
Loved the Hamburger Guy story. Love finds us in the places where we aren't looking for it.
LOVE that story! So glad you listened to your heart and not those plans! :)
Carol - Thank you! They are the crappiest! When he grills, he still pushes down on them with the spatula when he thinks I'm not looking!
Angela - Thank you! I hope DC is as true in the love dept...it was definitely inspired by my feelings for my husband ;)!
The Golden Eagle - Thank you! Glad you enjoyed!
J.L. - My husband was a little weirded out that I wrote the story of our love and referred to him as 'Hamburger Guy' the whole time!
Jemi - Thank you! Seriously, I'm the worst planner...my heart seems to work better than my brain most days!
What a lovely post! Loved it!
Fun story to read! But I'm focused on the muppets. We love them. We went to Disneyland and California Adventure Friday (we have annual passes) and saw the Muppet 3D movie. Always a winner to watch with the family!
Wonderful story. Loved it!
Aths - Thank you! I'm glad you liked it ;)!
Stephen - I LOVE THE MUPPET 3D MOVIE!!! (Haha! I'm always glad to meet a fellow Muppet enthusiast!)
Nas - Thank you! I'm glad you felt the love ;)!
That is a kickbutt awesome story - hamburger guy was defn a keeper. And I too love that he snuck out for cheeseburgers after the sushi dates. LOL Hey, random comment - you did Womens Studies at college? Me too! (see, another reason why I love your book Double Clutch.) Oh, and can i take this opp to give you another (gentle kick in the butt) reminder - Im waiting for book two!? Umm, I would really like some more of Jake please....Sooner rather than later!
Lani! You were women's studies too?! That's fantastic!! And explains why Leila is so feisty and amazing in 'Telesa'! And, I promise, I've been a very good girl, doing my edits, fixing up scenes...I've had to restrict myself from Blogger/Twitter/FB...too tempting! And how is Daniel coming, Ms. Wendt Young? Hmm? Cause I am missing him big time!
Oh, what a great post!I love the dialogue between the two of you at the counter.
Oh I so love the sound of this book. Great post and great images to go with it. Don't Pattinson and Lautner look young?
Talli - Thank you! He has a way of always being the calm to my crazy, and I think that reflects in the way we talk to each other ;)!
Madeleine - So glad you like the sound of the book! And, I know, aren't they total babies?! I felt a little like a creeper putting that baby boy picture up! Haha!
Liz's pic makes her look like she would be a truly fun lunch companion.
That is a fantastic How we met story. Worthy of a movie meetcute.
Adorable. Glad I dropped by to read it.
This is an adorable post! Love the story of Hamburger Guy...sometimes you just fall in love with someone despite the "list". That's when it's genuine. (=
Such an adorable story, thanks for sharing!
BTW, I wouldn't mind being in a triangle in that top photo! Lol!
*Deep Sigh* Great story! Thanks for sharing it with us.
Great story! Love it. And Double Clutch sounds great, too.
AWWWWWWWWWWW! I love that story. How neat. :D
Great story!
What a great story--I love it. :) *feels all warm and fuzzy*
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Such a cute, sweet, funny, endearing story. Still smiling as I write this.
Suze - My sister is my most common lunch companion. She says I'm mildly entertaining, but warns you all to never offer to 'share a dessert' with me. Apparently I eat more than my half ;)! But I'm always super hungry, and you look like an excellent lunch bud yourself!
Steph - My husband thinks it's awful! But I agree with you...I can totally see it on the big screen. I'd be Kate Winslet and he'd be Jude Law and it would be a huge moneymaker!
Margaret - Glad you stopped by too! Thank you!
Jo - Totally true! I'm an incredibly bad list maker in general, but that time it was just a hot mess! (Good thing I'm very good at tossing my lists out!)
Riya - Thank you! And I totally, absolutely agree!
inluvwithwords - Thank you! I'm a little romantic, so I'm always good for a sigh or two a day ;)!
khashway - Thank you! And DC is kinda inspired by Hamburger Guy!
Lisa, Sharon, Angela - Thanks so much! It makes me feel warm and fuzzy when I remember...only I have to edit out what I stereotypical jerk I was. But then it's super nice!
Stephen - Okay, you need to be at a hilarious Southern wedding, let your sister do your hair, be without a mirror, ask your five year old daughter how your hair looks, have her tell you that you look 'like a boy,' then have your sister take a picture to reassure you that you do not look 'like a boy.' Tada! Insta crazy smile pic! I'm very glad you like it!
Catherine - Thank you! I'm glad it left you smiling ;)!
I loved this story! I really want to read the full novel version. Thanks for sharing your real-life love story!
This is the sweetest story! Isn't it funny how you stumble into an unexpected wonderful in the strangest places and especially when you weren't looking for it at all.
Aw, what a great post! Love it! :) I bet your book is wonderful!
What a sweet story! I just loved it. Sounds kind of like a novel - annoyance at first sight, then those little heart flutters, the two of you not getting together for various reasons, then finally realizing why you're perfect for each other. Thanks for sharing. :-)
Oh what a lovely lovely way to tell the story. Thank you!
Jim Henson, John Hughes and Pearl Jam, how can you go wrong?
such a cute story!!
That was such a beautiful, heart warming story!!! Thank you so much for sharing it :)
Thanks so much, everyone, for giving Liz a warm welcome. I can't wait to read my copy of DOUBLE CLUTCH.
Jamie and Caryn - Now that it's been mentioned and plotted, I better get on it! Haha! Though my husband might cry if I put him through another book he thinks is about him!
Stephanie - Seriously! I remind him all the time how lucky he was I was hanging around to work for the summer and we were both single ;)! (Okay, I'm pretty lucky, too, I guess!)
Dawn - Thank you! It makes me smile to myself every now and then ;)!
Deniz - Seriously, right?! You sound like a girl after my own heart...and a child of the 80's/teen of the 90's! That was the BEST time for pop culture in my humble opinion!
Veronique and WritingNut - So glad you guys liked it! It was so much fun to write!
Medeia - THANK YOU SO MUCH!!! Your blog is so fun and your followers are amazing!! I loved crashing here!! I totally loved 'Bestest. Ramadan. Ever.'...did anyone ever tell you it's kind of like a Muslim American version of a Georgia Nicholson book? Because I was cracking up!! I hope you like Double Clutch, and thank you so much again!!
Awsome guest post Liz :D Such a cute story! I loved Double Clutch, just finished, and I can't wait to post my review for it for the blog tour :)
Omg! It's like something out of a chick flick! I love it. I hope something like that happens to me one day. And I now wish I worked in a diner in a small town somewhere *le sigh*
-Jess
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